MBTI: Your Multiple Personalities
Ever feel like nobody knows the “real you?” Of course you have! Everybody has at one point or another.
Unless you’re lying to yourself right now thinking “No, I’ve never thought that.” Which then makes you one of us because your way of separating yourself is by pretending you don’t think the same things most people do. Pow, got you.
Anyway, everybody has thought that they’re different in a way those around them can’t understand. Sometimes it’s in a pretentious way and other times, it’s a bit more justified. In either case, the “real you” and the face you put on for everyone are all you, it’s just a matter of how you’re feeling at the moment. There is a fence between the you at home and the you at work but it’s all in the same neighborhood.
Accepting the good and the bad will allow to see yourself in a clearer light and bring MBTI and your life into better focus.
It’s a pretty common thing. You’ve had a long day at work. Maybe in dealing with a co-worker or customer you’ve had a miscommunication that sent somebody into a blind rage or something of the like. While one side thinks “What a terrible person” the other side thinks “I’m not normally like that but they forced me to be that way.”
Or maybe you feel like the way you are at work isn’t the way you are with your friends, who know how you really are as opposed to the people you put on a face for.
These other people out here…they don’t get me. Not like my friends do.
But the truth, of course, is that everything described is still you. The you at work being nice to the customers (Or being a dick), the you that’s around your friends doing…whatever you and your friends do.
There’s also the insecure or weaker side that doesn’t come out much because frankly, it’s embarrassing. Why should it come out that much? We’d like to pretend a side like this isn’t really us because “normally” we’re in much better spirits but still- there it is.
I’ve been on forums, exchanged emails, talked to people (In real life!) and there’s an idea that whatever side we feel like displaying is the “real” us while whatever negatives we can hang onto about others are the actual side of their personality. On the other hand, it could be that you have a less-than-admirable opinion of yourself while you’re more than willing to see others in a positive light. It seems they can do no wrong while you’re just a pair of clown shoes waiting to be stepped into.
The point is, everything you’re viewing is entirely the right answer- there’s just a lot more to it than that.
While there’s always the possibility that you or someone else is misinterpreting the way they see things altogether, the reality is that you’ve only got so much time to dedicate (or want to dedicate) to the way you see others. So your interpretation of others is going to be limited. Between work, school, hobbies, friends and family, really understanding others is friggin’ difficult.
So we condense and we think of our friends in a few adjectives, ideas and memories. Even in MBTI, which is meant to help understand each other better, we still end up stereotyping each other based on type at times and nothing more.
Ultimately what I’m saying though is that everything you do, everywhere you go is all a part of the larger picture that is you.
You’re you walking through the grocery store even though you’re not talking up a storm like you normally do because you don’t know anybody there. It’s not as though your personality is on hold and you’re a shell of your normal self, but you’re adapting to your current situation.
I’ve known people to think that they know the real side of someone which they thought to be emotionally weak and worrisome; claiming that the side everyone else sees of that same person- a cocky overachiever- “isn’t really them.”
On the other hand, celebrities can often seem infallible. Many idolize, to a strange extent, their favorite singers or actors. In truth, they’ve got their bad days too, but whatever your image of them is so prevalent in many people’s minds it just doesn’t seem like they have problems like normal humans do.
Again, while an entire misinterpretation of all side of the person in question is possible, it’s far more likely that the one person versus the public’s opinion both have truth to them. But this person is just displaying different facets of themselves. Does this mean we’re all just a bunch of fakes? One side that seems worrisome and another seems capable, so they must be faking something, right?
At times, sure.
But aren’t we all this to a degree? Some days we think of ourselves as modern day conquerors, ready to take on anything that comes our way while other times we just want to pass out on our beds. Call it fake or call it inconsistency, but we’re humans, not movie characters whose solid existences begin and end in two hours.
Even still, those things you “fake” still say something about you. Why would you bother being really nice to Old Man Curuthers down the street when you actually can’t stand anything about him? Because on some level, being cordial is important to you, even if you go off to your buddies to talk about how much you hate him later.
Bringing different pieces of the puzzle together will give you the whole picture. This doesn’t mean you need to attempt to understand every single aspect of the people you know, but to understand that everybody else has different sides to them like you do, rather than seeing yourself as the only multidimensional figure you know.
Seeing others in a similar light to ourselves whether that means bringing their image up or down, will give us a better, more level if you will, understanding of each other.